OK, so we're walking through the mega store that is Babies R Us, and Danny's being a good sport as we're looking at strollers (he likes the Jeep version), and car seats (Eddie Bauer is his fave)...um, who knew my husband was so tied to brand loyalty? ;)
And then we get to the furniture section and find a couple of pretty cool contemporary designs ... one in fact that looks like it was made to go with the dresser we bought from By Design a couple of years ago...modern sleek Danish lines, dark rich cherry wood, and silverish-gray handles. I don't know if Holden will dig it, but I think it looks nice... I don't really know what Holden will dig though. All I know is that the kid really likes church hymns, has an aversion to fast food (for the most part) and likes red meat on occasion (everyone knows that's not me craving the carnivorous foodstuff).
Sooo, beyond that... there's breast pumps, and bottles, bibs and blankets...and a myriad of other things that don't even begin with the letter "B." (Hmm, maybe I should get that children's book "Big B, Little B, What begins with B?")
IT'S ALL SO OVERWHELMING!!!
How does a new mother know what to chose? What's she'll like? What he'll need?
When I registered for our wedding, I felt like I had a pretty good idea as far as things I would use in my home... I mean, I was 28, and I had been living (to some degree) on my own for about 10 years between school, work, etc. I knew what colors I wanted to decorate with (thankfully I think we've decided light green, white and a splash of dark chocolate for Holden's room). I understood that a girl can never have too many fluffy white linens (especially if they come in egyptian thread count between 400 - 800, or higher if you're feeling ridiculously luxurious.) I knew I was more likely to use a waffle iron than a kitchen aid, that my stoneware would be best utilized as plain white...likewise chargers and linen napkins can even make cold pizza delightful, and orange juice tastes better out of a wine glass. Pretension in the kitchen is not so bad... I keep a picture of Audrey Hepburn above my sink just to remind me that one can be fabulous even while doing dishes.
But I had time alone and to "nest" as a single to discover what my tastes are... what I'd want in my dream home. What prepares you for motherhood essentials? PerhapsIntuition? Um yeah, I don't really have that yet.
So my question is, MOMS, what do you need? What's been the thing/s that you've found for motherhood that has been the hidden gem or the no-brainer (yes I have the list from Babies R Us... but it says register for a breast pump... Great idea, but there's like 10 varieties! How do I know what works? What I'll want? What will be bet for the baby?)
H.E.L.P. - M.E. - NOW!!!
As much as I'd like to believe that hanging a picture of Audrey in the nursery will make mommyhood easier, truth be told, even I recognize it's not really going to make me a better mom. Though it may remind me that even when changing diapers you can still be fabulous.
COMMENTS - FEEDBACK PLEASE!!! (Fathers welcome too!)
post script. also, does anyone know of a diaper service in SLC? Danny's not too excited about cloth diapers... but how can we call ourselves environmentalists if we don't at least try a mix of plastic and cloth?!?!? (It's so hard being me.)